Let me explain. You've learned how to communicate on some level with those around you, but, as Tony Robbins stated in one of his audio programs, "The quality of your life is a direct result of the quality of your communication....with yourself." And it's in the communication with our self where our own suffering, anxiety, or even delight and joy is created. How you can know if you've become a success if you don't know what the definition of success to you is? How about love and a relationship? How can you know if your in the relationship you're looking for if you have defined the boundaries of what you want to share, who you are, and what you're bringing to the table.
It's the same with fitness. If you come to me and want to improve your y health and fitness, but don't know exactly what that means to you, it's pretty vague, and though gives us parameters to work in, it doesn't necessarily give us the exact direction we need to move you toward. Set a definition, know what it is, and realise it can change and adjust as you grow.
For me, fitness, means being able to ask of my body, and having the confidence and ability for my body to follow through. Whether it's doing a powerful routine on stage, going kayaking, or deciding to spontaneously run the San Diego Convention Center stairs for kicks and giggles as fast as I can...my body can do what I ask of it. That's fitness, in my world. Knowing that, it helps keep my training on track so I have measurable results and directions, even small goals, to work toward.
If you've been work toward something, or continually struggling with an idea or though, or even if those goals just seem to keep slipping out of your fingers, then perhaps you need to sit down and look at exactly how you define what's happening, if it serves you to define it in such away, and what the resulting self-talk is concerning your definitions. The self-talk will help create direct results, so pay attention to your definitions and how your self talk responds.
Ready to change your life? Then prepare for some self inquiry. Whatever the issue maybe, bring it forward in your mind and body, let it sit there. Feel it. Then ask:
What does this idea/event/goal mean to me?
What have I done to move toward it at this point? Were the results what I wanted?
Am I clear on exactly what accomplishing this means and the next step? (If not, sit with this questions awhile?)
The definition I have, is it mine or someone else's? Does it serve me?
Definitions are integral, but not set in stone. Just the the tides they will ebb and flow, just pay attention, do your best to become to attached to them, but know how changing and being aware of them will keep you moving in the right direction.
And as always:
TRAIN: Lead with the heart; the body will follow.